Be the Change You Want to See in the World

A mom’s take on this quote and how I apply it practically in my day to day life
When did this quote first come into my life?
When I was a junior in high school I won a leadership award. There was a male and a female winner. The winners got to go on a scholarship to a camp that summer in 2012. It was the National Leadership Conference held by the American Youth Foundation in Miniwanca, Michigan. I was completely terrified to go, my mind was racing saying ‘You’re not going to know anyone’. Little did I know, on that long bus ride up to Miniwanca I would learn and become more confident in myself, in my people skills, and in my ability to be a wise leader. As part of one of our workshops we were given this little card that said “Be the change you want to see in world.” I’ve kept that card and its been in my mirror ever since. I just haven’t really known how to apply it until now.
How it has affected me:
Recently, I have been affected my some shows and documentaries I’ve watched, I will do more blogs on those and how they inspired me to change. But just a couple nights ago I saw Tomorrowland. What a good movie! The part that really made me actually step back and think was the part when Governor Nix, played by Hugh Laurie, gave his speech on the end of the world. I know it sounds crazy, but just listen to it. Go on, I’ll wait 🙂 Watch Video Here

 

When I saw this I thought what a perfect thing to go with this blog! Now, I know that we do not know the day or the hour of when the world will end, and guess what? That’s not the point! The point is that humanity is suffering, our planet is hurting, and no one really cares. It’s the mentality of ‘It doesn’t affect me and all I’m going to do is die so who cares?’ It doesn’t matter your religion, we were put on this earth to be stewards of it. So how do we do it? I can get overwhelmed when something is presented to me on a large scale…such as the world. I have to break things down to be more personal to me. One thing that has been a passion for me for years is to be more environmentally friendly, and that’s been renewed for me in the last few months. Now, what does that look like practically in my everyday life?
Here’s an Example:
First: Get a notebook or open up Word document on your computer
Second: Make a list of things that you want to see change in this world. (For me they include: climate change, global warming, less waste, more natural less chemical, more love to humanity, less war. Better treatment of animals in the food and beauty industry.)
Third: Use the things on that list as headings on the next page and list just a couple steps you can take to make them happen under each heading. For example, from my notebook:
Less Waste:
1. Make a recycling system.
2.Make a composting system.

I believe the things Hugh Laurie’s character says in that speech really are true in today’s society. Sadly. But I think that people would be more willing to act on what they want changed and would help more if they had a practical guide to help them through. Also, I believe it really helps a person when they came up with their own plan themselves. I have pictured below my lists that I made in my notebook, feel free to copy or use these in your life. I know, and you know, that we can’t change the world in a day, but you can help encourage it. Encourage change for the better in your home and on social media. Try to make it ‘cool’ to be environmentally friendly. You can lead others to change by what you do. Others will see and they will follow.

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Conclusion:
Now, I am not a major leader in most ways people would think of. I’m not a boss in a company, I’m not a teacher in a school, and I dont have a major following of people looking up to me. I am a leader in the ways of I’m the boss of my home (of course Nate and I are partners in all aspects execpt for house managemnet, that’s my area )… ( and no, he isn’t sexist). I will be my son’s teacher. I will teach him how to have manners, how to live his life to his fullest potential , and how to have good values and skills. Now, I do have a social media following… No I’m not by any stretch one of those intsa famous people who have a million followers kind of following, I’m talking about 300 people who, whether they like to or not, see what I post on their news feed every day.
I have influnce in my life. Just like you. How will you use it? My goals in life are to make a bigger list and to do everything on my list. I want to keep doing these everyday habits of change. I want my life to reflect the change I want to see in the world.
Blessings,
Halyse G.

Natural DIY Cleaners

In our home we recently decided take another step towards being as Organic, Natural, and Ecofriendly as we can. We are trying to do this in all aspects of our lives, with our food, our cleaning and health and beauty. We also just recently implemented a recycling system in our home. The first step we have taken for this week is making all natural cleaners. I’ve made an all purpose cleaner, a fabric refresher, and a glass cleaner. I’ve ve since tried them out and I love them. I was so relieved that they actually work and I am so happy that there are no harsh chemicals that would be bad for Simon, my 3 month old son.

I found these recipes from a number of different sources. YouTube, Pinterest, etc. And then I modified them to fit what ingredients I had and what I found in common between the different recipes.

Ingredient List:

. Dish Soap ( I Use Mrs. Meyers)

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. Vodka (Cheap is good)

. White Vinegar

. Water (I prefer the H2O kind haha)

. Essential Oils

. Lavender

. Lemongrass

. Tea Tree

 

All Purpose Cleaner:

First, take your glass spray bottle and fill it with two parts water and one part vodka.Glass is best if you are using essential oils, and alcohol as a solvent. Plastic doesn’t go well with those ingredients. But I only had one glass bottle today so I reused a plastic Windex one I had saved for one of the other cleaners I made. I will switch to glass for that sometime soon. The alcohol works as both a solvent and a disinfectant.

All Purpose CleanerSecond, add ten drops each of lavender, tea tree, and lemongrass oils. These are great antibacterial oils which also smell very fresh and clean! I’m excited about a cleaner that’s actually HEALTHY to breathe! I’m not affiliated with any essential oil companies so I get my oils from Amazon or TJ Maxx. #NOSHAME.

Third, add three drops of dish soap. Because a little soap goes a long way and can really take care of some tough grime. I’m using Mrs. Meyer’s these days, from The Grove Collaborative.

Fourth, shake it up. Spray it on. Wipe it off. That’s really three steps, but it would look weird to have three steps with only three words each.

*Do not use on wood, the alcohol can severely damage your furniture. I currently use Method’s daily wood cleaner.

 

Fabric Refresher: Febreeze… JKJK I’m replacing my Febreeze.diy2

. 1 Part water

. 1 Part vodka

. Essential oil. (My container is about three ounces and I used ten drops, but you can proportion it to your container or how strong you want the smell. I like the smell of lavender, you can use your favorite scent.)

Glass Cleaner Recipe:diy3

. 1 Part Water

. 1 Part Vinegar

 

 

 

 

*Make sure you shake these well before each use!

I’ve been really happy with how they have been working and how pleasant my house smells. I cannot wait to explore some other natural homemade cleaners.

Here is an example of how well the  all purpose cleaner works.

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The fabric refresher is great because it actually gets rid of dog ( Sackett) smell!

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The glass cleaner is my favorite. It’s so simple and it gets the job done!

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Thank you for reading, I hope you can try some of these natural cleaners in your home too!

Blessings,

Halyse G.

Grasping a Mom Identity

My honest journey, That I Understand Will Never Be Over

“Oh crap!”, “What did I do?!”, “Did I really pray for this?” …

When I gave birth to my son I was scared out of my mind. I honestly did not have that glorious moment that they talk about in all the books and in the movies. You know the classic scene where the mother is out of breathe and the doctor says “It’s a boy (or girl)!” and the mother is just so happy and she takes the perfect baby to her chest and the perfect inspirational music starts playing and then cut the scene to when she is nursing her baby in the perfect nursery and everything’s PERFECT. I am going to call it straight out- Not My Experience.

Halyse and SimonThat moment when I was handed Simon, my son, I was crying and out of breath and they asked me if I wanted to do skin to skin . I thought of course! That’s what the books say to do. That is the right thing to do. They put him on my chest and I just started crying from exhaustion and I couldn’t believe that this baby was finally here. I knew that he was miracle and total gift from God, but I all I could think was “OH CRAP”.

Let me give you some backstory. I had never held a baby before Simon. Yep, you read it  right- not one time. In a way that was a special moment because the first time I held a baby was when my Simon was being laid on the my chest. I grew up an only child so I had no younger siblings to help out with, and no practice with anything that had to do with babies. As a result of that, I was so shaky when I first held Simon. The medicine, the epidural, and the nerves, gave me the severe shakes. I couldn’t hold on to him for long. The next day I was so nervous that I would break him so I held him super stiffly. I would look at him and my heart was full but my stomach started to go into knots.
The next couple of days would be the biggest learning curve of my life. When we got sent home, every day for four days  we had to leave the house at least once. So I  did not get rest and time to heal. Simon had jaundice and we had to go to Children’s Hospital and UT Hospital for testing. (He was fine after about five days.) Nathan, my husband had to teach me how to change a diaper, I was not good  at nursing. In fact I was so bad at it that I eventually got mastitis. I was running a fever of 102.0 and I felt like I had the flu. My confidence was getting weaker and weaker. On top of all that the Baby Blues where in full swing.
Baby blues: “A common temporary psychological state right after childbirth when a new mother may have sudden mood swings, feeling very happy, then very sad, cry for no apparent reason, feel impatient, unusually irritable, restless, anxious, lonely and sad.”          MedicineNet
I  was crying every night, struggling to understand, ‘What did I do? Why did I have a baby? Why do I feel this way? And how in the world I am going to responsible for this tiny human?’ I would cry to my husband “It’ll never be the same. It will never be just me and you, and I don’t want to do this anymore.” That was about twice a day. Every night he would hug me and say “This is how you felt when we got married too. I’m not worried about what you are feeling because it’s whole new role for you, just like being a wife was a whole new role, but look how great that turned out.” Every night for two weeks we would have to sit down and talk things out. He would have to remind me that this stage was only temporary and that what I was feeling completely normal. The two week mark hit and it was like a switch went off. Just a peace in not exactly knowing how it will turn out.

Halyse Nate SimonI now look down at my three month old baby and think of all we have accomplished together. Nursing? We’ve got it down pat. Scheduling? Check. Sleeping through the night? YES, every single night. Absolute love? No doubt.

I now know that every mom changes and evolves with her baby- whether its 3 days, 3 months, 3 years, 13 years, or 30 years. You and Baby have accomplished a lot together and there is more learning and unknown to come. I can’t wait to learn from him. I can’t wait to have conversations with him. I can’t wait to adapt to what he needs as he goes into different stages of life. I look at Simon and he looks back at me and I see so much more to come. I’m now thrilled for my new role as mom because I know  always be a newbie at this, and I’m okay with that. There will be times when I say “Oh crap!” “What did I do?” “What were we thinking?” and I will have remind myself…. “Hey Halyse, you prayed for this.”

Happy three months, my baby.

Blessings,
Halyse G.